Oxford English Dictionary <\/em>defines a misogynist as a person who hates, dislikes, or is prejudiced against women, not just American women. So his choosing to self-identify as a misogynist might be something that the \u201cnice guy\u2019s\u201d wife should know about.)<\/p>\nNow if I understand the \u201cnice guy\u201d correctly, he is also saying that Western women are evil because we act to our benefit? Um, hello\u2014who doesn\u2019t? Human beings are hedonistic creatures, meaning that we love to seek pleasure and go to great lengths to avoid pain. This is probably why the \u201cnice guy\u201d does not want to admit the fact that America and most parts of the world are patriarchal societies. I mean, why would he want to bring that up, even though he\u2019s exploiting his male privilege with a misogynistic website? That would just take all the pleasure away.<\/p>\n
Next he says \u201cIt’s simple: Women define the concept of sexism strictly from their point of view.\u201d Indeed, it is simple. What other point of view would a woman have? While as human beings we have the ability to empathize with one another, we still cannot completely, 100-percent, see another person\u2019s point of view. This is probably why men and other hegemonic forces in our society have a hard time recognizing their privilege or identifying the impediments that others face.<\/p>\n
Now I don\u2019t want the \u201cnice guy\u201d to think that I don\u2019t understand where men are coming from. Men have it hard. The ambiguity around masculinity and yet the strict and confining gender roles that men must assume in order to be considered a \u201creal man\u201d is indeed quite ridiculous. That being said, the \u201cnice guy\u201d also needs to understand that American women are raised with those same notions of masculinity. So when they go around shouting, \u201cwhere are all the real men at,\u201d that is because they too were raised to see men in a certain way.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m truly sorry that the \u201cnice guy\u201d seems to have had many unpleasant experiences with American women, but if he listened to what he was really saying, the problem is not American women. In fact, the problem is the American culture that has produced these women as well as him. I also agree that everyone should have the ability to speak their mind, male or female, so I am not bothered by the existence of his website. A lot of my issues with the \u201cnice guy\u201d, however, stem from the fact that at one point he deemed himself a nice guy that American women killed off. I actually do not even understand how he is married to a woman since he is no longer the \u201cnice guy\u201d he used to be.<\/p>\n
No one is nice to everyone all the time. \u00a0I\u2019ve been a \u201cnice girl,\u201d myself…And despite the fact that men in general have done some really crappy things to me, it has not made me any less inclined to date one, but rather to continue to learn why they make the choices they make.<\/p>\n
We are all products of the environment that we live in, and even though the \u201cnice guy\u201d thinks that he has escaped all of his problems by marrying a Japanese woman and moving to Japan (not surprising considering it is a country that is characterized by its strong sense of patriarchy), I\u2019m sure that if he told his wife that he married her because she would not speak her mind, not promote equality for women, and not seek pleasure for her own benefit, then she would have a lot to say about that. Till then, I will just wait eagerly for his \u201cWhy Japanese Women Suck\u201d page.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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