Let the obvious be stated: coworkers can make or break your job experience. When you have great coworkers, you know it. And when you have not-so-great coworkers, you also know it. From my share of professional environments, I’ve learned that everyone is very, very different. So, let the nonobvious be stated: it’s difficult navigating multiple personalities, some of which you may like and some you may not. Here’s the best advice I can give for managing coworker relationships when the going gets tough:

1. When your differences are very apparent
   Maybe you like to make lists, follow a linear plan, and veer away from making changes. Maybe she likes to go with the flow, see how the wind blows, and play everything by ear. Clearly, your management styles are super dissimilar. Resolution? Compromise. Often time communication is the key reason teams fall apart and arguments arise. Start the dialogue early and discuss your methods of working, completing tasks, and organizing your day. If everyone is understanding and on the same page right from the start, the following journey may be less bumpy.
2. When they aren’t supportive
   So they’ve mocked you for simple things – perhaps for taking notes, talking about your accomplishments, asking questions, color coding your folders? They’re clearly not OK with you being different. They would rather gossip and talk at you or about you, rather than talk with you. Not only is this unsupportive behavior frustrating, but it also makes you feel poorly about yourself. It doesn’t feel good to be made fun of or to be ridiculed for having a system you’re comfortable with. Resolution? Shut it down (politely, of course). Don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself and defend what is rightly yours. After all, your coworkers have already built up the nerve to break you down with their comments – why not be the bigger person and tell them you’d rather have their support than their harsh criticism. Offer up the opportunity for them to explain the comments they’ve made, as constructive criticism can go a long way for both parties.
3. When they challenge you (and not in a good way)
   Have you ever been questioned outwardly and inappropriately in front of others? Has your work become more difficult because your coworker has intentionally not done his or her part? Red flags all around, people! Resolution? Distance. I’ve found that in situations like these when you’re facing challenges that should not be happening, actions speak louder than words. Once you’ve answered their questions calmly, excuse yourself from the group. You will be less likely to act out or become defensive if you physically show you don’t endorse the conversation’s negativity. If your workload has suddenly increased because your coworker didn’t want to contribute, finish what’s left as best as you can and don’t be afraid to ask someone else for help. The act of being resourceful will show your leadership.
4. When they start to infiltrate your personal life
   One of the best benefits to having a great coworker network is the chance to socialize with them outside of the office. But what happens when your connection to the other coworkers seems to be lacking? You’ve tried to make amends, to see through your differences, but they’ve stood you up or they’ve dropped the ball too many times. In this circumstance, find comfort in the fact that you’ve done your best. But there’s not much you can do. Their actions and their words have spoken, so channel your inner Queen Elsa and “let it go.”

Good luck out there, workplace warriors. Make the best out of your situation, or change it up completely. There is no shame and no judgement in leaving a position if they people you work with aren’t right for you.