When life hits you all at once, it can be really hard to accept how you’re feeling and give yourself the time to process all your emotions. This week, I got out of a meeting and immediately felt like crying. I missed my mom and I suddenly felt so emotional that I couldn’t hold back my tears.
At the time, I was having a really hard time rationalizing my emotions, trying to figure out why I was feeling so sad, and could not come up with anything that made sense. The problem I realized later in the day was that, my feelings didn’t necessarily need to make sense. I think that often, as women, we are chastised for showing too much emotion, often being told that we are too emotional, and also that we are irrational as a result. What I have been realizing more and more often is that you feel what you feel and there is no stopping it. I also recognized that my feelings were likely a product of stress, even though at the time, I didn’t consciously feel stressed.
This is a very busy time in the semester, with midterms and papers being due, and it can be overwhelming trying to stay on top of everything. If there are times where you do feel like pulling your hair out, or you just feel like you can’t take it any more, here are some things you can do to cool off:
- Allow yourself to cry. Sometimes, I try to hold in my tears, when I could really benefit from just letting them out. Crying can be very cathartic, and I often feel better after I empty my tear ducts.
- If you can take a step from something, anything, do it! Even if it’s just skipping a meeting that you were planning on attending so that you can take some time to practice self care, it will be worth it.
- Go for a walk, go to the gym, do something to get your body moving. Even if you’re not training for a marathon or getting in shape for a sport, just doing something to get your heart rate up can be so beneficial for, not only your physical health, but also your mental and emotional health. It has also been proven to relieve stress and can get endorphins flowing so that you feel happier afterwards.
- Call a friend, a family member, or talk with someone in person! The truth is that most people have either had similar experiences and can relate to what you’re feeling. It can feel so good to have someone affirm what you’re feeling, even though it is important to note that, even if someone doesn’t affirm your feelings, THEY ARE STILL 100% VALID.
- Eat something delicious! I would not necessarily condone stress eating, though I am victim of it, but eating something healthy and delicious can help jumpstart your system and is great fuel for your brain. It’s not always to make healthy decisions when you’re stressed, but it’s the most important time to eat healthier. Try for at least one veggie or fruit per meal!
These are my tips, but if you have any that I haven’t listed, please comment below! Here’s to a great week, and coming up, spring break!!