Family Weekend Musings and Advice from my Role Models

A few weekends ago, my mom and her friend from college came to visit for Family Weekend. We had the most amazing time, filled with hiking, delicious food, deep, meaningful conversations, SNL, and lots of silly mom jokes. While the weekend was certainly comprised of mostly fun and games, we also spent some time talking about my future plans pertaining to careers, majors, and study-abroad programs.

These topics mostly came up on our last full day together, when my mom Jane, her friend Lauren and I stopped at one of my favorite spots in town—Last Drop Cafe—in the Village, to pick up some caffeinated drinks and sandwiches to have a little picnic on the Pomona lawn. I had introduced myself to the owner, who was making our drinks, because I had remembered him from a presentation he gave to the Motley Coffeehouse employees (his cafe supplies a lot of our baked goods). He was really friendly and talked to the three of us for a few minutes. After we got our food and were on our way to campus, I mentioned how amazing it was that he seemed to love his job and get genuine joy out of making people happy, one latte and cookie at a time. This conversation soon morphed into musings related to careers in general, and Lauren and my mom were both curious and eager to discuss my future plans.

Since Lauren seemed to have a lot of experience surrounding careers and life in general, I asked for her opinion on what she pictured me doing down the road. I know what I don’t want to do, but when I try to solidify what it is I do want to do, things get a bit muddier.

The previous night, Lauren had shared the entire story of how she ended up becoming a physician’s assistant, along with all of the bumps and divots that got her there. It wasn’t her initial plan at all, but it ended up being a dream that she decided to pursue. She also elaborated on her two kids’ decisions pertaining to majors and jobs. It was really reassuring to hear that people arrive at their careers and goals through all sorts of different paths, that most trajectories are not entirely linear, and that not all people go into college having a “plan.”

Lauren, being the insightful and kind soul that she is, ended up telling me what kind of careers she pictured me doing and why. She provided some really interesting points and justifications that would have never occurred to me. Ultimately, we all have to make our own decisions regarding career choices, but I found it really useful and comforting to obtain advice from a wise and experienced outside source who could assess my strengths and weaknesses more objectively than a family member could. While my mom arguably knows me better than anyone else (even better than myself sometimes,) she can be biased in the sense that she knows I get anxious about my future easily, so her advice is always in the realm of telling me to “worry less,” or “not think about it.” She constantly reassures me that it will “all work out.” While this sort of advice works well for me, I also need the kind of advice provided by Lauren, which can help push me along and ensure that I am taking steps towards whatever goals I have.

Moreover, one of the most important things I gained from my conversion with Lauren was how I need to find a balance between practicality and passion. She stressed the importance of planning ahead, and making sure the decisions I make regarding my major, internships, study-abroad, etc. are rooted in some form of logic and practicality. In other words, she wants to make sure that I have thoroughly considered all of my options and how it will all fit together to get me in a place I want to be.

Overall, I am so lucky that I have strong role-models that have helped guide me in all facets of my life. I hope to continue to learn from others who are older, more experienced, and more insightful than I am. It’s reassuring to realize that I don’t need to figure it all out on my own, and I can always ask for help and guidance. For anyone else out there who feels confused and indecisive, I recommend finding some positive older role-models who can be a source of guidance and support.

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T-shirts always contain the truest statements.
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Don’t Underestimate The Power Of A Small School

Recently, I experienced by first official “Family Weekend” here at Scripps.  While I was excited to see my family, I didn’t think much about the various scheduled different events Scripps had planned. All I knew was that I would be forced to accompany my family to these events and fulfill the role as their own personal tour guide.  What I would have never predicted, though, was how much I would learn about  my Scripps education and the beauty of the liberal arts.

It all started with our president, Lori Bettison-Varga, who gave a speech Saturday morning in Garrison Theater. Prior to entering Garrison, I was expected to hear a typical speech about what is going on within the Scripps community, the news, and any major recent accomplishments.  I wasn’t wrong. I received information from Bettison-Varga that I had anticipated hearing. It was the question and answer session, though, that caught my attention.

So far from my experience at Scripps, I have come to admire the transparency between the administration and the students. When the U.S. News and World Report ranking for Scripps College dropped from the 23rd best liberal arts college to the 29th, Bettison-Varga wrote an email that addressed the overwhelming concern of what this would mean for our school. With that being said, I still began to feel uncomfortable and rather squeamish when parents started asking questions. I felt as if secrets were about to be unleashed that would cause me to be upset with Scripps.

For lack of better words, Bettison-Varga was getting “grilled” with questions that revolved around endowment, increasing tuition, the housing crunch, and what originally worried me the most: the career related questions.

While my parents completely supported my decision in choosing Scirpps, they have always been worried about my ability to find a job after graduation coming from a small liberal arts school that, unfortunately, seems to be rarely known.  They believe that if I had gone to a bigger, more well known university, it would alleviate some of the after graduation stress.

I can’t say I necessarily disagree with them. Scripps only has around 7,500 alumnae, and with this low number comes a lack of resources needed to make easy connections. But it wasn’t until this weekend that I completely shifted my mindset about the value and benefits of graduating from a small women’s college can have when applying for competitive internships and/or jobs.

In the audience, one parent asked Bettison-Varga how many seniors have secured jobs at graduation. While I don’t remember this statistic, I do remember having a flash forward to me at graduation with a diploma in hand, but zero job offers. This seems terrifying, but what Bettison-Varga ensured the crowd was that every Scripps woman has the skills to effectively find and have a job, I began to think realistically.  Our liberal arts education has unconsciously made us great writers, have amazing public speaking skills, and be passionate about anything we are committed to. What is not to love about that?

Similarly, I didn’t  know that I would be so moved and blown away by the CP&R hosted panel that was held this past weekend. Not only were the panelist so incredibly articulate when speaking on behalf of their career goals, but I was inspired by each and every one of their stories. Once again, though, I found myself feeling uncomfortable when parents began shooting questions at both the panelists and Vicki Klopsch, the Director of CP&R.

One parent asked the panelists if they had found that when interviewing for internships, did the specific name of their school, Scripps College, have any impact on them being hired? The panelists didn’t lie. None of them answered the question by saying that the reputation of Scripps is what helped them land the internship, but the more interesting answer is that indirectly it did.

From everyone who goes to Scripps and works here, we all know it is a unique, one of a kind place that is impossible to replicate anywhere. It’s a women’s college. How many women’s colleges can you think of in the country? Only a handful. Now if that doesn’t make a statement, I don’t know what else does.

As silly as it may sound, I had never thought of the benefits of attending a women’s college from the perspective of a future employer. I had internally recognized how attending a women’s college would benefit me, but I am now beginning to fully understand how beneficial and valuable my skills, that I am learning at Scripps, will be in the outside world.

I also began to internalize more reasons behind why the size of my school will NOT deter me from finding, applying, and being accepted to any internship/job I plan on applying to in the future. It will force me to work harder and be driven in ways that I may not necessarily have been before if I believed that I could rely on the reputation of my school. I am thankful for that and for the panelists that ensured me that nothing was stopping them from doing what they want in life.

While it is true that I might not be able to rely on the name of my college to get me a job (cough, “Insert Ivy League School Name Here” ), what I am positive that I will be able to rely on is the skills, leadership, and everything else I have learned here at Scripps. Everything will be transferable. Take that, large universities.