HOPE

When I wrote to you all last week, I had just sent out a plethora of networking emails to a variety of Scripps alumni, who are currently living all around the globe. I chose my connections based on people who had the same majors as me – English and Organizational Studies – or who worked jobs that just sounded really interesting. I didn’t actually expect a response from any of them – I made it clear in my emails that I was just a wee first – year, trying to get some information and advice on what these alumnus maybe had done during their years at Scripps to bring them to the level of success they’re at today. However, I’m happy to say I got a response from three out of the five women I emailed!

While I tried to set up calls with two of the women who contacted me, one of them never got back to me with her schedule, and the other one never added me on Skype when we were set to meet (I’m trying to reschedule with her). The last woman who I talked to was the Scripps alumnus who had interviewed me, and basically gotten me into Scripps. She works currently in the fashion industry, and I was mostly talking to her because I remembered from our interview that we had a lot in common. Coming to Scripps, she didn’t know what she wanted to do with her life, except to write and be in New York City after she graduated. I feel exactly the same way. I was able to call her last week to chat, and to see what advice she had for me. What happened next blew my mind.

Upon getting on the phone, she expressed incredible enthusiasm talking to me, saying that she had even wanted to contact me to see how I was doing at Scripps. When I told her that I absolutely loved it, she was thrilled- she’s genuinely one of the sweetest people I’ve ever had the opportunity to meet. We chatted for a while about Scripps, my classes, my friends, etc. before getting down to the nitty-gritty: her experience as a freelance event planner and art buyer. She immediately said that she had friends in the city, fashion photographers, that she would contact about internships for me, as well as an organization that she worked with, which helped tutor underprivileged kids in the NYC public school system.

 

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I was amazed that anyone would offer me such opportunities, so quickly. I actually started to cry, and my reaction wasn’t unlike those girls pictured above. I must’ve looked like a madman to anyone who saw me on the phone.

Later, I was informed that all the internship opportunities with the fashion photographer had been booked for the summer, but I was welcome to apply to a position at the organization she worked with. I found a paid position online as a Teacher’s Assistant for their summer camp, and I’m submitting a cover letter and resume by the end of this week. I would absolutely love to work for them, and I actually have a lot of experience tutoring and working in a classroom environment. I’m going to still apply to other internship opportunities, but at this point, I’m feeling incredibly optimistic and relieved. I can say that all the awkwardness that I went through in networking was incredibly worth it-though I still think that the most genuine human connections lead to the best opportunities.

 

Brag About Your Blog

Looking to add more to your resume or cover letter, but too busy for another job or internship? Why not start your own blog? 🙂

Simple to learn and free (or cheap) to manage, a blog provides a fun way to express yourself as well as gain some professional experience. This CP&R blog is only one example. See two of my personal blogs below for some ideas:

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A more personal blog, StraightEdgeRuler includes stories about substance-free living, as well as newly added interviews from others about their experiences with drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex, and college life. I write it as a sort of journal, as well as a representation of my values and interests in life.

This blog does not directly relate to my vocational pursuits, but it has certainly given me an edge when I apply for writing or media positions. Many of these jobs require or look for applicants with knowledge of WordPress, as well as general social media outlets.

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But what if you’re not much of a writer? No worries– you can express yourself in another way. How about art?

Online my art gallery blog, I include relatively few words as captions for the photographs I take. Instead of spending hours on my writing, I invest my time in photographing and editing. That being said, this can actually turn out quite time-consuming. But since I only update once a week, I still save more time on this than I would at a part-time job around campus.

Most importantly, I genuinely enjoy reaching out to an audience where my words will be digested and put to use. Writing is fun, and I hope to continue along this pathway for many years to come.

What are some of your favorite blogs to follow? What kind of topic would you like to write about in your own blog? Comment below.

Rejection and Opportunity: The Senior Struggle is Real

For most of you it is February going on March. For anyone who is a senior, I’m sure you’ll agree when I say that it feels more like it’s February going on May. Every day feels like it’s the end, and yet you can’t help but revel in memories of when you encountered this day at Scripps for the first time four short years ago. It’s a beautiful schizophrenia we live in as seniors. I’m coming to learn, however, that spring of senior year in college feels a lot more bittersweet than it did in high school. Around this time in high school, we all knew that we had gotten into Scripps and choose to attend. We had planned next steps, and we could truly relax and enjoy our final moments in high school.

In college, however, I’m coming to find that senior spring can be one of the most stressful semesters of your college career. Yes, I am really excited about graduating and moving on to that next chapter in my life, but for some, including myself, just finding the title to this next chapter, let alone what its contents will be can be sickening. And let somebody ask me one more time about what I’m doing after graduation… I can’t even finish the thought.

We’re all either applying for jobs and fellowships, and hearing back, or in some cases, not hearing back. And it is this latter part that can really start to eat away at one’s self-confidence…especially if our peers are fairing far better in landing post grad opportunities.

Unfortunately, rejection is a part of life that we’re not trained how to handle well. So for this week’s blog post, I wanted to help students think about alternative ways to view and handle this daunting new chapter ahead. This is dedicated to all my seniors in the struggle.

It was January 28th around 3pm that I got the email. I could have opened it the minute I saw it, but my finger just lingered over my phone screen, paralyzed with fear.  If this email did not have what I wanted to see, what I had planned so hard to see, then the perfect two year plan that I had devised for myself was about to become the next four months of chaos.

Dear Daysha,

We regret to inform you…

Ah. The infamous “We-regret-to-inform-you” speech, the equivalent of the other wildly unpopular “we-need-to-talk” speech in dating (but for professional opportunities), was staring me back in the face like that dreaded text message from your soon-to-be ex.

It was a hard blow to take to my ego but, interestingly enough, I was not angry that I did not receive a Fulbright. It actually felt weird knowing how ok I was. That’s not to say that I did not want it, but as Michelle Bauman, a CMC alumna who was also the keynote speaker for the Women and Leadership Alliance conference last Friday, would say, maybe this rejection was delivered to me as a gift.

In her speech, Bauman, executive turned motivational coach, dared us to rethink the purpose behind the rejections we receive in life. “If the challenge were here for you, not against you,” she asked, “a gift brought here only for the purpose of serving you, what is the opportunity? What is the gift to grow?”

Applying Bauman’s question to my own life, I think that I was not meant to get the Fulbright because I think I am actually meant to take the next year off to devote to my writing. It was an idea that I had been toying around with prior to hearing back from Fulbright, but I was terrified of actually doing it. As Scripps students, I think that it can feel daunting to go a non-traditional route after graduation when we’re constantly bombarded with pressure from our families and society to get a “real” job.

However, as Bauman so eloquently stated in her speech, “we have to look for the opportunities where we fold up like a pretzel… and use it as an opportunity for growth; an opportunity for transformation.” For me that came in the form of a playwriting competition, which I can proudly say I won, and has only reinforced my decision to do a self-designed writing fellowship (self-designing…such a Scrippsie, right?) So I would say if there’s something that you’ve been pondering about doing post-graduation, but it scares you. It forces you to step outside yourself and take a risk, then do it. If you’re wildly successful at it, you’ll be forever grateful that you took the risk. But if it doesn’t go as planned, remember that there is a gift there for you begging to be opened and put to use.