FOMO–A College Phenomenon

On New Student Orientation day, Scripps should have posted signs around campus reading “CAUTION: Upon entering college you will experience painful bouts of ‘fear-of-missing-out’ syndrome.” Okay, maybe I’m being a little dramatic, but the common desire to experience everything the 5Cs and surrounding area have to offer while juggling sleep, school work, health, family, friends, and extracurriculars is a real problem that college students face. The fear of missing out is commonly referred to by the acronym “FOMO.”

Across the Consortium there is a club for any interest. There are information sessions outlining careers and internships and study abroad opportunities. There are speakers giving lectures every day of the week. There are sanctioned parties Wednesday through Saturday. There is so much to do, but sometimes life puts on the breaks. My workload for AISS gets in the way. My TSL article sneaks up on me. My daily workout gets pushed back. More and more things build upon each other and going to the dining hall even becomes a task.

At the end of a hard week, sometimes an early bedtime with some much needed rest is just plain necessary. As I am laying in bed, I check social media and email. Every week I am inundated by Facebook events, Event’s Digest notifications, Ventfull posts, and emails giving me information on activities and events around campus. Events and activities that are going on while I lay in bed. Like most students, I am interested in activities and I want to go meet new people and have a good time. At the back of my head I am also thinking: I need to network. I need to get good grades. I need to have the freshman year experience. I need to go out and meet people. Most of all, I need to sleep, but I have this gut wrenching fear of missing out.

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College forces people to find a balance and FOMO skews this balance. So far in my Scripps experience I have experienced FOMO more times than I can count, however, I am now slowly developing my own schedule and making decisions on what is best for me. We as busy college students need to understand that not every party is going to be amazing and not every information session will shape our lives. Realizing that down-time is not only amazing, but necessary to remain balanced, reduces the FOMO.

Being at a college like Scripps that offers so many opportunities is both a blessing and a curse. Striking the balance between work, play, rest, and all other facets of life is necessary. The fear of missing out will always persist, but prioritizing can reduce the syndrome that is “FOMO” and allow an extra hour or two of well deserved rest.

Choosing Classes or Picking a Job?

Picking and registering for classes seems to me (an inexperienced freshman) like picking a job. There are so many potential options, however I still feel so limited in what I am able to do. I have gone over and over the catalog trying to find the right courses to take, figure out timing that will work, and find the best professors. At first I was so excited to be able to take new classes and have a wider variety of options. Then I found out that my registration time was at 4:15, and everything became a little less hopeful.

Going through these steps has been similar to how I’ve approached jobs. At first, I get so excited about considering all of the jobs that I could possibly have. I could be a journalist, the owner of a start-up business, a lawyer, a publisher, a coffee barista, a traveler… The world seems to be at my feet. However, I then realize that I can only have one (or two) majors and that I won’t be automatically given my dream job. And then I realize that when I go into the work field, I will be one of many little fish in a big, big pond. Just like my late 4:15 registration time.

As it is still only my first semester of my first year here, I know that things will eventually work out. I have all five schools here to help me take the classes that I need, I have a great adviser, and I know some tricks to help me get into classes. But it’s a little more daunting when it comes to working after college. Hopefully I will be able to build some connections while here at Scripps and take advantage of all of the resources that I can. That way when I graduate I will not feel too little in the big pond.

Finding a job after college and working for the rest of your life is still a little bit more of a challenge than just registering for classes for next semester. They are still similar, though. You have to remember that eventually things will work out. Even if there is a job that you don’t like, you know that you won’t want to stay in that field or further pursue it. Just like the politics class I took this semester. Even though it hasn’t been my favorite class, it was still good in alerting me to the fact that I don’t want to study politics.

The job process is similar to college, just stretched out on a much larger scale. While things here at Scripps seem to occur so quickly, finding and maintaining a job will take a much longer time. So after graduating from college, that’s the number one thing that I will have to remind myself: things aren’t going to work out right away, and it may take a few tries to get it right. Just like choosing your classes and trying to choose a major. It will all be alright in the end (hopefully).

Playing the Student Card

As I mentioned last week, I’m a huge dork when it comes to the tech scene in Los Angeles and Pasadena.  You can find me driving to every event I can find in the city, even though that sometimes means up to two and a half hours of sitting in the car (welcome to LA, everything you’ve heard about rush hour and gridlock is 100% true).  Now, if you’re looking for how to find these events, I’ve got a lovely little post written up here, and you can read about the time Scripps Women in Technology and Innovate @ Scripps took a field trip to one here, but this particular blog is not about events themselves, but rather about what makes you special at mixers.

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Mixers love Scrippsies!

When I first started attending mixers, it was the summer between sophomore and junior year.  I was only 20 years old, and had no idea what I was doing in these seemingly uber professional business spaces.  Everyone around me would talk about current jobs, services they offered, projects they were working on, and I’d stand around mute with nothing to add.  People seemed to be trying to find someone else who shared their interests or had connections they needed, and as a student I had no network to speak of, nor skills to share.  My status as a student made me feel useless, but what I didn’t realize was it also gave me an advantage.  Although I was lacking in things to give, I was also lacking in ulterior motives.  The instant I said I was a student, anyone I talked to knew I had nothing to sell.  It was great watching them drop their guard as they spoke passionately about their interests, when they realized you didn’t want anything except to listen and learn.

We have only a few short years to use this status to our advantage (maybe more if you go to grad school), so I recommend starting as young as possible.  The most important lesson I learned is that as a student at a mixer, people honestly want to help.  They want to tell you about how to find interesting events, about their work, about internships at their companies. They don’t mind that you don’t know anything, they can remember their own innocence as students, and want to teach you about their own lives.  There will occasionally be people who brush you off (you can see it in their eyes when they dismiss you as useless to them), but by and large the world is full of people who just want to share their own knowledge with you.  Sometimes a mixer can teach you more than any classroom, and following up with those people can build you a better network than you ever imagined.  So go out there and flaunt that student status, you’d be surprised at the knowledge you can gain just by admitting your own ignorance.

Brag About Your Blog

Looking to add more to your resume or cover letter, but too busy for another job or internship? Why not start your own blog? 🙂

Simple to learn and free (or cheap) to manage, a blog provides a fun way to express yourself as well as gain some professional experience. This CP&R blog is only one example. See two of my personal blogs below for some ideas:

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A more personal blog, StraightEdgeRuler includes stories about substance-free living, as well as newly added interviews from others about their experiences with drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex, and college life. I write it as a sort of journal, as well as a representation of my values and interests in life.

This blog does not directly relate to my vocational pursuits, but it has certainly given me an edge when I apply for writing or media positions. Many of these jobs require or look for applicants with knowledge of WordPress, as well as general social media outlets.

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But what if you’re not much of a writer? No worries– you can express yourself in another way. How about art?

Online my art gallery blog, I include relatively few words as captions for the photographs I take. Instead of spending hours on my writing, I invest my time in photographing and editing. That being said, this can actually turn out quite time-consuming. But since I only update once a week, I still save more time on this than I would at a part-time job around campus.

Most importantly, I genuinely enjoy reaching out to an audience where my words will be digested and put to use. Writing is fun, and I hope to continue along this pathway for many years to come.

What are some of your favorite blogs to follow? What kind of topic would you like to write about in your own blog? Comment below.

Business Attire: Stylish yet Professional

Hi everyone. Previously, I blogged about The Fullbridge Program for several posts. Now, I will be moving on to more general topics as we wind down for the semester.

Today, I want to explore the world of business attire.

Here’s an example of what not to do:

reese-witherspoon-black-suit-aries-fashionReese Witherspoon is a gorgeous and talented actor, but even she can’t pull off this all-black (mostly black) ensemble. Aside from the gold embellishments, there’s not much to look at here. Rather than slimming her down and looking professional, the all-black outfit makes her look rather nondescript.

Please avoid wearing all black. You are not dressing for a funeral. I’ve learned from experience that black is not only extremely boring, but it guarantees you’ll blend into the background as completely unmemorable.

I like black just as much as the next person. But black is not the most cheerful of colors, and is usually regarded as unapproachable. It’s helpful to pair black with a brighter (but not too bright) color, or single pattern. “Dressing to impress” might sound like an obvious decision, but you would be surprised at how little thought people put into their attires. Although it might sound unfair, employers may not hire you or regard you respectfully if you don’t look the part.

66f720666188e891b4ec5908692e2db4In the image above, the silver metallic elegantly offsets the white suit jacket and white heels. This may work well in a more creative work environment, but make sure it’s not too flashy for your particular field of work. 

asian-womanWhy not try a grey jacket instead of the traditional black? The bright blue underneath gives off a happy and friendly vibe, though most other colors would work as well. Keep in mind to choose a single pattern, whether it’s one on the outside jacket or the blouse underneath.

19a23d95be40a9f7a61d696b24e2dcbfThe outfit above suggests a more casual vibe, but still allows for a clean and polished figure. The colorful pants and flashy jewelry may be a bit much for some work settings. Again, you’ll have to make your own judgment call.

02a363ec5c7e6a7eb46f134f08d099f8A bit darker in shade, but not all black, this outfit perfectly balances elegance and professionalism. Careful with the heels though– more than a few inches high may appear ostentatious– and worse, may hinder your job performance.

black-business-womanA solid-blue jacket offset with black buttons looks chic, yet professional. A black blouse is a smart choice, as any other color would look too bright and distracting. Even white would not be advised, as it seems quite informal. Considering pairing this ensemble with black pants or a skirt– even a subtle pattern if you can pull it off.

43a020ab7ba03ea458d5d67d20c3a60cThis particular shade of green may not look great on everyone, but this example proves it’s possible to dress up without looking drab. A darker shade of green– emerald or olive, perhaps– would also work quite well. The patterned shoes might be rather risky– check with your workplace if you’re not sure.

b1216c125bb8cf388f035d610c322a28The riskiest of this lot, the outfit above may turn heads for the wrong reasons if you’re working in a more formal setting. The jacket makes good sense, as do the plain black heels, but the dress calls for second thoughts. The dress’ colorful neckline looks too much like party wear, unless you’re working in the fashion or entertainment industry.

Want more ideas? Check out additional suggestions on my Pinterest board

What makes you feel most confident in an interview or at work? Do you have a go-to pair of shoes or set of colors?